Two people can be perfect for each other but if the timing’s wrong it’s never going to work out. Bad timing is the reason that most normal people end up single. Weirdos and creeps are single cause they are weird and creepy but people like us are single because of bad timing.
-Love & Sex
I thought I’d take advantage of some new-found inspiration and write just for a moment or two. It’s very refreshing (and sometimes rare) to meet a person who you have a conversation with and halfway into it, you take a big sigh of relief while slowly realizing to yourself, “Wow. Someone gets me.” I recently found myself in this situation while working a red-eye turn to Cali and back. It can be a bit awkward working a long flight like this with people you may not have anything in common with or don’t find interesting enough to have a natural-flowing conversation with. Thankfully, this was not the case last night.
There were a few points we touched on that I wanted to share with my loyal readers who have found some of my writings regarding relationships and their occasional struggles helpful.
It has taken me a while to really comprehend how important timing is in life. It can either ultimately build or destroy a relationship. However, as important as it is, we shouldn’t really think about it. Don’t get me wrong – I believe we should acknowledge and respect it, but timing isn’t something we should obsess over. The point of life and love is to enjoy it. We don’t have fun when we force ourselves to. You can’t force a person to go on a roller coaster or haunted house and expect them to enjoy themselves while experiencing it. Deep down, the person already has a preconceived idea of what their experience will be like. Granted, a handful of people may be pleased after the ride is over, but the majority will run off & find the nearest bathroom or trash can to vomit in. Relationships can work the same way. Our human nature does not like us to be alone and without companionship. On the same token, it does want us to find happiness. The pursuit of this particular happiness is the issue. We try to force ourselves into situations and relationships just to fulfill our own personal status quo. Ultimately, we don’t want to be alone. So we sacrifice our own happiness for the sake of being with someone in this moment. We settle for less than we deserve, even if it feels socially acceptable. We sometimes allow ourselves to sacrifice happiness based on what the world shoves in our faces regarding age, race and even our own personal type preferences.
That guy is too old/young for you. Won’t our parents be mad if you bring HIM/HER around? Isn’t he/she a little too tall/short for you? Ew. They wear glasses?
Sorry. I went a bit off course for a minute there.
Let’s continue.
We shouldn’t obsess so much on timing. That’s not the point. Just let it happen. Let go and stop thinking. This flows into my next point: complexity versus complicatedness. The dictionary definition of these words are nearly identical. In relationship context, however, they couldn’t be any more different. Love and relationships are complex; as human beings, we make them complicated. We tend to overanalyze our relationships more than the meaning of life itself. Yes, there are many moving parts to relationships and trying to make them work. However, once we pull out the wrench and attempt to fix or tweak those parts in order to make it perfect, the wrench slips and gets caught in a gear and complicates the complex machine that we call love. We don’t have all the answers, no matter how much YOU personally think you do. It comes down to just letting go and having fun with that person. I can speak for myself and say that I’d love to settle down. I just haven’t found the person who wants the same thing without complicating the relationship. I would love to find someone who has their own friends, their own independence & their own personality, but also someone who has a passion, excitement and joy for life that we both can share. Too much to ask? Sometimes it feels that way.
Stay tuned…
